Now that you know how to help your soon-to-be newlywed friends during the planning process, you may be wondering how you can help on the day-of the wedding! We’ve outlined a few things you can do to help. Again, don’t feel obligated to do everything. Your friends still want you to have fun! These are just some ideas of where you can help out if you have some extra time.
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There’s nothing better than a little surprise! Have some champagne or small decorations in their room when they wake up, or at their getting-ready location. This will remind them how special you are to them, and make the day just a little bit sweeter.
You can also offer to decorate their honeymoon suite with champagne and/or flowers. Just be sure to check in with their partner as they may have been planning to surprise each other with this.
If the newlyweds have decided to DIY some items, or want to use a lot of personal decor, offer to help bring these items to the venue if you are able! See if anyone has been assigned to set these items up, too. Many times the wedding coordinator or planner will handle personal items, but an extra set of hands may be helpful. At the very least, allowing the couple to rest and not worry about getting decor to the venue before getting ready is a great way to help!
Once the party starts, no one wants to step up and be responsible for personal decor. If your friend have DIY’ed anything or brought in their own decorations, offer to help either pack things up or take them home! As a friend, it’s typically easier for you to return these items to the newlyweds than having a vendor do it, as long as you live locally! You can also offer to take home leftover food or gifts at the end of night.
In today’s age, everyone loves instant gratification of seeing photos immediately. Professional photographers and videographers obviously need time to sort through the best shots and edit them, so get some behind-the-scenes to share with the couple beforehand! Setting up your phone to record special moments like the first dance or toasts is a great idea. Make sure you aren’t getting in the way of the professionals though. And on the topic of phones – remember to take them out of your pocket before the ceremony! They can be left behind in the getting-ready suite, or with a friend who is not in the wedding party.
Remembering to eat breakfast and lunch before the wedding is essential. No one wants to be hangry by the time the ceremony begins, and you’ll want something in your system before drinking at cocktail hour. Be prepared with snacks and water for the entire day. We highly recommend making sure either breakfast or lunch is a full meal, but both would be ideal! It’s also a good idea to make sure everyone is staying hydrated through the reception. Especially with an open bar, you might want to remind fellow wedding party members and the newlyweds to have a glass of water!
Usually, the maid/matron of honor and best man will be on top of this, but the more eyes the better. If you notice some hair out of place, or a twisted veil, step in quickly and fix it! The couple and photographer will appreciate the extra thought.
This doesn’t have to be anything big! One idea is to have the wedding party write short and sweet letters to their friend who’s getting married. Let them read them the morning of the wedding to remind them how special they are. Or maybe print out photos of them with each wedding party member and create a small album. Just to keep both newlyweds feeling equally special, it might be a good idea to collaborate with the other wedding party members to make sure each member of the couple has their own surprise.
Many couples worry about their home when going on vacations. Their honeymoon is supposed to be a time to relax, and enjoy being newlyweds! Offer to pet, plant, baby, or house sit for them if you live locally. It will be a huge relief to have someone they know and trust look after their treasured belongings. If you’re unable to do so yourself, maybe help them research sitters in their area.
Of course, none of these ideas are required! Being a member of the wedding party alone is a very meaningful task. If you are able and feel moved to help out with any of the above, the newlyweds would be more than grateful. Most of all – remember to have fun and celebrate love!
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